Speed Dating Tips: The Dos and Don’ts for Making a Great First Impression

Aug 7

✅ DO: Come With an Open Mind

You might not meet “the one” that night—but you could meet a great friend, a future date, or someone who opens the door to an unexpected opportunity. The key is showing up with curiosity, not pressure.

❌ DON’T: Put Too Much Weight on the First Few Seconds

First impressions matter, but don’t write someone off immediately. Nerves can get the best of people in those early minutes. Give each person a fair shot to warm up.

✅ DO: Ask Engaging Questions

Skip the typical “What do you do?” and “Where are you from?” unless they naturally come up. Try asking:

What’s something you’re looking forward to this month?
What’s your perfect weekend?
What’s a random fun fact about you?

It makes for a more memorable convo (and helps you stand out). Here’s a list of some more questions to ask!

❌ DON’T: Interview People

Speed dating is not a job interview. Avoid checklist questions like, “How much do you make?” or “Do you want kids?” in the first 5 minutes. You’ll get to those bigger topics if there's a second date.

✅ DO: Be Yourself—Not a Sales Pitch

There’s no need to “perform.” Be honest, share your quirks, and talk like you would with a friend. Authenticity goes a long way.

❌ DON’T: Focus Only on Attraction

Yes, chemistry matters—but sometimes it takes a little longer to spark. Focus on vibe, conversation, and how you feel around the person, not just looks.

✅ DO: Come Prepared With Confidence Boosters

If you're nervous, that’s normal. Wear something that makes you feel good, do a power pose in the mirror, or bring a friend for moral support. The more at ease you are, the better your energy will be.

❌ DON’T: Ghost or Be Disrespectful

If you’re not into someone, that’s okay. But be kind and polite—everyone’s putting themselves out there. And if you do match with someone but decide later it’s not a fit, send a respectful message instead of disappearing.

✅ DO: Use the Prompts on the Table

They’re there to help! If a convo stalls, pick a question from the prompt card and laugh about it together. Shared awkwardness can be bonding.

❌ DON’T: Drink Too Much

If alcohol is available, pace yourself. You want to stay present and alert. Drunk flirting doesn’t usually translate well into lasting connections.

Bonus Tip: Make Your Decision Right After Each Round

If you’re participating in a FIND event, you’ll make a note after each date. Trust your gut—but don’t overthink. Sometimes a simple “Would I be curious to talk to this person again?” is enough.

Speed dating isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, openness, and being just brave enough to say “hi” eight times in one night. So go in with good energy, ask good questions, and most of all, have fun.

Want to try speed dating IRL?

Bo Turner